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Question of the Day:

Angel, this might sound like a dumb question. You see a lot in movies where guys will drag ice down a girls stomach or on her nipples, and I’ve heard friends rave about temperature play like using warm water and ice or breath strips. I have even heard of friends using metal or plastic things kept in the freezer to cut down on mess. Is this a safe thing to do to skin? Are there limits on what you can do?

Angel’s Point Of View:

There are always limits on what you can do when it comes to sexual escapades, but temperature play in itself is not an unsafe thing to do. As with anything there are proper and improper tools to get the job done. Ice cubes are great. To get the sensual gliding effect, give them a few seconds in your hand to let the surface melt. Be careful what objects you freeze for temperature play. Some thing work, others don’t, so use common sense. An easy way to take care of this is to pick up toys specifically made for temperature play. A line gaining in popularity are the odd looking Dai-Do toys. They are made of high grade aluminum that conducts heat and cold very well. This makes them ideal for temperature play. If you are going to use at home products in your freezer, remember what happens when you put a wet tongue to a pole in winter. If you freeze something metal like strands of dog-tag type chain to run over your loves body or a freezable rolling pin, remember to run your hand over the item several times afte ryou pull it out of the freezer, or just run a bit of cold water over it so that it will not stick to her skin.

Question of the Day:

Angel, I’ve been toying with the idea of finding my prostate. I keep reading about men who enjoy it, and I’ve managed to get over the bravado issues that keep me from trying it out. I’m just not sure how to go about it. I’m pretty certain I’m not gay, and my wife agrees. Please point out a few things so we can expore this new avenue.

Angel’s Point of View

I applaud you on beginning your foray into your own backdoor. There are a few good tips I can give on starting out here. Prostate toys are a great way to begin finding your prostate. Prostate toys are shaped in such a way as to search out your special areas. There are extra extentions, much like a woman’s rabbit vibrator, that stimulate the perineum. The perineum is the patch of skin between the anus and the scrotum and a very sensitive area. Outside of finding your prostate and picking out the toys, just go slowly as with any anal intrusion, use lots of silicone based lube, and have fun.

Angel,

My husband has been asking me for sometime now to try anal with him. I’ve done some toy shopping and a litte research but I’m still a bit afraid. I’ve never done it before, and the very idea of the pain it will cause terrifies me to death. Do you have any suggestions on getting past the first hurdles to give this a good shot?

Anal can be a difficult subject to broach. Even outside of having a stigma attached to it, there is a reputation for pain when it comes to trying it out.  The first thing to remember with anal is lube and time. That part of your body is not self lubricating, so it is very important to avoid skimping on the (water or silicone based) lube. Go slowly to avoid tearing skin and pain from stretching. A few small butt plugs and/or some anal beads will get you used to the sensation. The final thought here is, only do something you are comfortable with. Relaxation is pretty important with anal especially, so if you are not comfortable or overly tense, you will not have a good experience with this. Trying things you are not comfortable with wears on the open trust in your relationship. Try new things because you want to, not because you feel you have to.

Angel,

My wife and I have been trying new things lately. I know that sex does not play out like some romantic movie, but we try new things anyway and hope for the best. A few nights ago, I sent my kid to their grandmother’s, I ran my wife a bubble bath, put candles all over our bathroom, and popped a bottle of champagne. We tried the romantic bathroom scene, but found that trying to make love in a tub is almost impossible. The dryness under the water makes the whole thing a fumbly mess and pretty darn uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestions on making this experiment a little more like the movies and a little less like high school fumbling?

Trying new things is a great step in your relationship, and I applaud both of you for keeping an open mind and adding some fun to your relationship. Bathtub lovin’ can be done without too much trouble, but it does require some planning ahead of time. A silicone based lube will not break down under water so quickly that it won’t solve the problem. Abandon your water based lubes for this one, they just wash off. Once you get started, stay close together and avoid completely pulling out. It will also help if you put on a condom and lube up before you join her in the tub. Don’t give up on your fantasy, I’m sure next time it will be as special as you’d like it to be.

Angel,

I’m looking to move my toy collection into the 21st century. There is so much out there that I can’t figure out what is techie type and what will really work for my relationship. I travel for business on a monthly basis, and I want something that will keep my relationship fresh and fun without resorting to the same old toys and phone fun.

Tech toys don’t have to be confusing, and they don’t have to require a lot of setup or a big production. Todays new toys are all about convenience, pleasure, and integration with a new generation. One of the toys I suggest most often for couples who are apart sometimes is the OhMiBod – Boditalk. This toy, which also comes in a bullet variety, hooks straight into your cell phone and responds to the voices on the phone. You talk to one another and the toy vibrates. There is a similar toy called the Naughtibod that hooks into your MP3 player. These represent the forefront of toy tech and seem perfect for your situation. Remember, while toys will help keep things sexy during time apart, nothing does the trick like good old fashioned talking and communication. Don’t let the toys take the place of the friendship in your love. I hope that you and your signifigant other find an updated toy collection that will bring you closer together both inside and outside of the bedroom.