I was looking for some new tricks online, and I came across the word “figging”. What kind of practice is this?

Angel’s Point Of View:

Figging is the act of taking a piece of ginger root, peeling it, and applying it to the genitals. Usually this means inserting the peeled section into the anus or the vagina. It produces a warm, burning sensation that can very from mild to intense.

You can do this safely if you follow a few simple rules.

1. Pick good ginger. Do not pick ginger that feels squishy or soft. A firm, light colored piece of ginger is best. It goes without saying to pick a piece that will be in roughly the shape of a finger when it’s peeled for ease of insertion.

2. Have some baby wipes on hand in case the sensation is too intense. They should remove the ginger juices pretty quickly.

3. Test! Use a small piece for a short period of time before you jump right into this.

4. Make sure your piece of ginger root has a big knob at the back end so it doesn’t slide all the way into the anus or vagina.

5. If putting ginger in the vagina, make sure she is turned on. The ginger will have more effect if she is excited and wet. For best result, play some adult movies to get her worked up first.

If you find that figging is too much for you, check out some sex toys that can provide varied sensations. Sometimes the things built for sex are best.

I have a problem. Sometimes at the beginning of sex, I get a little overstimulated and my finale comes early. My wife has told me that it happens to a lot of guys and she is very supportive, but that doesn’t really make me feel much better. Is there anything I can do?

Angel’s Point of View:

It does happen to a lot of guys, but not a lot of guys are as ready as you are to do something about it. Taking control of your sex life is the first step, and you have already done that. Second is to address the problems causes.

You said it only happens sometimes. Try asking your wife to go easy on your genitals during forplay. Make it about her for a few minutes before she gets her hands on you. This lets her get a head start so you are more likely to cross the finish line closer together.

Second, look around at the products for sustaining or desensitizing. Avoid mail order male enhancement products. They are not tested or regulated by the FDA, and some of them are plain unsafe. For a simple solution, try Trojan Extended Pleasure Condoms with Climax Control. Condoms in general slow your pleasure some, but these have a lubricant that lowers the sensation your recieve. This keeps you from getting overstimulated too quickly. If this proves too much for you, just try a regular condom.

I’m stuck at the office throughout the day and sometimes late at night. These days being on salary might mean more job security, it also means more work. To make up for the time away, my wife and I use instant messengers and chat programs to talk during the evening while I’m in the office alone. We tease eachother regularly with innuendo, but I’d like to do more for her while I’m away. Is there anything technology can do to help me?

Angel’s Point of View:

Technology is ever increasing in all areas of our lives, including sex. There are a number of things you can do to increase the intimacy between you both. The first solution could be webcams. It sounds like you have your own office rather than a cubicle where you are being watched. If you know your job doesn’t monitor your connection or doesn’t worry about what you’re doing on there, pick you each up a set of webcams. While you cannot get undressed on camera in your office, your wife will be able to see you and you can see her.

Technology has also given us the next generation of adult toys. The Internet Rabbit is one of my favorites. They took a rather traditional rabbit style vibrator and made it internet friendly. With this toy, you can give her pleasure right from your office computer! The only substitute for that would be you coming home early.

My husband wants to explore anal. I’ve been assured by friends and magazines that this isn’t an unusual request. I’ve read enough to know that his prosate is what I want to get at, but I don’t even know where it is. I don’t want to hurt my husband physically trying something new, and I don’t want to disappoint him either. Do you have any suggestions?

Angel’s Point of View:

Prostate play can be a lot of fun for your husband, but you are right to do your research to start with. Let me give you a few thoughts that will help you along that road.

1. The anus is NOT self lubricating. A good water or silicone based lube is imperative here. Tears to that part of your husband’s body would not be good for either of you, so use a healthy amount of lube.

2. This seems to be new territory for both of you. Go slowly and don’t rush. The anus is finicky and you can cause a great deal of discomfort by pushing in while he isn’t relaxed. Press the toy you’re using in just a bit at a time then hold it and give him time to relax. If he feels any pain, back up and go slower.

3. Start with smaller toys and work up. This may seem like common sense, but remember that certain equipment is made for certain parts. Your toys are not suited for his backside. Try picking up toys specifically suited to find the prostate, like a Nexus Glide. This toy even comes with a rollerball that stimulates his perineum.

I’m curious about the “strapless strap-on”, the Feeldoe. I’ve been reading reviews on it and found that they are mixed, but mostly because some women have trouble ‘holding’ them in during penetrative sex. How will I know if I am one of those women? I’d like to know before I invest in something that I can’t return.

Angel’s Point Of View

That is a great question I know a lot of women are going to wonder about before a purchase like that. This new type of strapon packs a ton of sensation related benifits for both people, but that does hinge on you being able to hold your end, so to speak. Toys like the Feeldoe and Fun Factory Share are strap free methods of strapon sex and well worth the upgrade.

Try picking up some Ben-Wa Balls style balls like Luna Beads that are specifically made for vaginal fitness. These discreet little balls will help you tone your pelvic floor muscles. When you are at work or other places you might be uncomfortable using something like this, simple kegal excersizes that involve tightening your pelvic muscles, holding them for 10 seconds, and releasing will keep you in tune.

These excersizes will quickly take care of any worry you have about keeping your new toy inside of you. You’ll also find that you have greater control over your orgasm as well as a stronger orgasm as a result from your new muscle control.

I have been sex toy shopping, but I’m not sure how my boyfriend will react. I’ve approached the subject of adding toys into our sex life, but my boyfriend has gotten a little jealous at the idea. I’m not sure how to let him know that I want to choose toys that will enhance what we have, not replace him. What is a girl to do?

Angel’s Point of View

Plastic, rubber, and batteries will never replace what you have with the man you love. You know it, and I know it. Does HE know it? Sit down and talk to him outside of sexual situations. Forplay is not the time for this discussion. Let him know that you love what you have together and you’d like to explore new ground together. Emphasize that together part! Try to find sex toys that enhance what he has without replacing him. If you pick a vibrator, your best bet is to go with one smaller than he is. Be delicate with his ego until he gets used to the idea of mechanical devices in the bedroom. Remember to compliment his moves rather than concentrating on the toys.

Angel, My wife and I would love to try something new and have fantisized about public sex for years. The problem is, we are terrified of getting caught. It would be even worse if it were someone we knew or the situation was illegal and led to arrest. How can we fulfill the public sex fantasies and keep our reputations and clean police records?

Angel’s Point Of View:

We all want to try something daring and exciting, and it is good to see you are thinking through the realities as well. Public sex is a tricky one, but the solutions are pretty simple. The first is to try some nookie in a private, public place. Someplace like in the garage at home or out in the woods near a cabin you rent for the weekend. These places are outside of your comfort zone, but have a low risk of getting caught. They might help satisfy that spontaneous urge you feel. The second option is more covert. There are adult toys that she can wear under her clothes like vibrating panties or the Remote Control Waterproof Venus Butterfly that rests on her clit. Both of these items come with a wireless remote that you could hold and control, giving her unexpected jolts of pleasure. Vibrations are good for men too, so consider a similar item for yourself with the roles reversed. Knowing you are giving one another these sensations without anyone being the wiser is definately a daring escape.

Angel, I have a fabulous, monogamous relationship with my husband. He’s good to our children, romantic with me, helpful around the house, and ultimately, everything a husband should be. Here comes the, “but”. During sex, he’s a wonderful lover. He’s very attentive and caring, but he has begun to get his feeling hurt. We spice up our marriage with toys. The problem is that most of my toys are bigger than he is. I don’t judge him for being smaller than average, and I will always love him, but I am worried I will have to put aside that bit of satisfaction for the health of my marriage. What can we do?

Angel’s Point Of Vie

Sometimes the male ego is fragile, just like the female ego. We want to be everything to our partners and sometimes that isn’t reality. Talk to your husband openly and honestly. Tell him that he satisfies all of your desires except this one. Tell him you appreciate the fact that he is so understanding of your needs. Next, offer some ways to work through it together. Toy companies market penis extentions that pop right on his member. These toys are a sheith that goes onto the head of the penis, and it will usually add an inch or two. This would allow him to satisfy your need for size himself instead of feeling left out of the game.

Angel, I want to get my girfriend something sexy for her birthday, but I don’t want the gift to come with any pressure or to come off like I’m only thinking of myself. I know she likes to feel sexy, and we play with toys together a lot, but I want to get her something that is sexy and fun for her without looking like a sleaze. I’ve looked through pages of toys, lingerie, and gifts, and they all look like gifts that say, “For your birthday, lets have sex!”. What do you suggest?

Angel’s Point of View:

Unless your girlfriend is hypersensitive, which I suspect she isn’t, this shouldn’t be a problem so long as the gift is from the heart. Sex gifts are always tricky though. One idea that would be for her and her alone is to set it up so you wouldn’t be around for the gifts trial. When she gets home, run her a bubble bath, light some candles, toss around the rose petals. Then, leave a non-threatening toy like the I Rub My Duckie or I Rub My Fishie on the side of the tub with a note instructing her to squeeze the cute, cartoonish duck or fish for a sweet surprise. Send her to the bath, then leave the house to give her some quiet alone time.

Angel, My G-spot is killing me. Everyone I know has found theirs but me I think and it is driving me up the wall. I am almost convinced that I don’t have one. My friends seem confused as to where to locate this mythical spot, but know that theirs brings them some untold joy and treasure. What can a girl do?

Angel’s Point Of View:

First of all honey, relax. If you are enjoying sex, there is likely nothing wrong with you. Some women are more sensitive in certain areas than others, and some women report that the g-spot is not all it’s hyped up to be. Some women simply cannot find it. Your best bet, if you feel the need to hunt down your internal pleasure points is going to be flying solo. Pick out a waterproof g-spot vibrator. These toys are designed with a curve that aims for the right area. Run yourself a bubble bath, climb in, and relax. If you get to your toy, use it as comes naturally. Take your time. If you find your spot, I applaud you. If you do not, stick to techniques you enjoy and don’t let a little patch of skin take away from the joy you take from sex.