Anal Introductions
Angel,
My husband has been asking me for sometime now to try anal with him. I’ve done some toy shopping and a litte research but I’m still a bit afraid. I’ve never done it before, and the very idea of the pain it will cause terrifies me to death. Do you have any suggestions on getting past the first hurdles to give this a good shot?
Anal can be a difficult subject to broach. Even outside of having a stigma attached to it, there is a reputation for pain when it comes to trying it out. The first thing to remember with anal is lube and time. That part of your body is not self lubricating, so it is very important to avoid skimping on the (water or silicone based) lube. Go slowly to avoid tearing skin and pain from stretching. A few small butt plugs and/or some anal beads will get you used to the sensation. The final thought here is, only do something you are comfortable with. Relaxation is pretty important with anal especially, so if you are not comfortable or overly tense, you will not have a good experience with this. Trying things you are not comfortable with wears on the open trust in your relationship. Try new things because you want to, not because you feel you have to.
