Question of the Day:
I love playing with various sex toys, but most of them just do not have the staying power I want. The vibrations are weak and top out far below where I want them to. Is there anything out there that is torque based rather than just simply pretty?
Angel’s Point of View:
All I can say here is, “You and me both!”.
Sex toys can be a little tricky to pick out, and some of the most popular models these days are less than adequate for direct stimulation since they are toys for couples.
Try looking for a wand type massager that plugs into the wall. It would have a rotating head on it with a long handle built for direct contact. I have one and it delivers hard vibration to very specific points. It is also great for couples massage!
November 16th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »
Question of the Day
My wife and I go to a secluded cabin for a month out of the year. The embarassing problem we run into in the middle of nowhere is that our toys run out of batteries. These vacations are so we can get back in touch. It is like a honeymoon every year. Are there any energy saving ways to backpack out our sex life?
Angel’s Point Of View:
There are plenty of ways to keep the battery usage to a minimum. First, buy lithium batteries for your sex toys. Second, when shopping for vibrators, shop for a green vibrator that has a crank at the end. It never needs batteries, and you can just turn the handle til it’s charged and use it. It operates like a crank emergency radio.
Try using non-battery toys. Ice for sensation play, breath strips during oral, and good old fashioned hand power are just as exciting as battery power. If you have plugins in your cabin, you can also try a fucking machine. They plug right into the wall and do all the work for you.
November 11th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »
Question of the Day:
My husband has been wanting to try some new positions, but I’m not sure how comfortable this is going to be. What can I do to get ready for the awkward positions we see in the Kama Sutra?
Angel’s Point of View:
My first and overwhelming answer here is yoga. Yoga strengthens your muscles as well as improving flexibility. If you are not the yoga type there are other options.
First, take it slow. Start with the easy positions and work your way through the book. Find some sex toys and go to the furniture section of the toy store. There are pillows and furniture specifically designed for getting you into these strange positions.
Do something new til you are comfortable with it, then move on to the next skill level.
November 11th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »
Question of the Day:
My girlfriend and I want to try something new. We want to go out to a secluded country area and make love in the car. I worry about the teenage awkwardness of it all. Is there anything I can do to smooth things out?
Angel’s Point Of View:
There are always things you can do to make fantasy sex easier. One is to bring along some sex toys. This opens up the positions you can get into while still giving and recieving pleasure. The second thing is to wear loose clothing so that you can pull your things on and off easily, or just avoid taking them off. A broomstick skirt for her and some loose pants for you should do the trick. Button and snap down shirts are great as well.
If you find the car too restrictive, grab the vibrators you brought and a camping blanket from your trunk and try it under the stars. Just be sure no one is going to stumble along and catch you.
November 11th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »
Question of the Day:
How do you ask your partner how you are doing in bed without looking like you are fishing for compliments? I’m looking to grade my performace honestly so I know what else I can be doing for her in bed.
Angel’s Point Of View:
That can be a tricky subject, indeed. How do you know your partner isn’t padding your ego to keep from making you feel bad? Maybe your partner doesn’t know where you could improve, but just that something is missing. Maybe you are doing fine and she doesn’t want things to change.
Instead of asking how you are doing, ask what you can add. Ask what sex toys she’d like and experiment with those to increase your bag of tricks. Encourage her to tell you during sex what she likes. Watch adult movies together so she feels comfortable telling you fantasies. With all that, you should be able to increase your grade rather quickly.
November 11th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »
Question of the Day
I was looking for some new tricks online, and I came across the word “figging”. What kind of practice is this?
Angel’s Point Of View:
Figging is the act of taking a piece of ginger root, peeling it, and applying it to the genitals. Usually this means inserting the peeled section into the anus or the vagina. It produces a warm, burning sensation that can very from mild to intense.
You can do this safely if you follow a few simple rules.
1. Pick good ginger. Do not pick ginger that feels squishy or soft. A firm, light colored piece of ginger is best. It goes without saying to pick a piece that will be in roughly the shape of a finger when it’s peeled for ease of insertion.
2. Have some baby wipes on hand in case the sensation is too intense. They should remove the ginger juices pretty quickly.
3. Test! Use a small piece for a short period of time before you jump right into this.
4. Make sure your piece of ginger root has a big knob at the back end so it doesn’t slide all the way into the anus or vagina.
5. If putting ginger in the vagina, make sure she is turned on. The ginger will have more effect if she is excited and wet. For best result, play some adult movies to get her worked up first.
If you find that figging is too much for you, check out some sex toys that can provide varied sensations. Sometimes the things built for sex are best.
November 3rd, 2009 | Advice For Couples, Health And Safety, Kinky Questions | No Comments »
Question of the Day
My partner and I have been talking about our fantasies, and we both have some doctor and nurse fantasies. We would like to play with medical equipment and make our fantasies more real, because the things we fantasize about involve medical equipment. Is there any way we can play these games safely? What equipment is safe to use?
Angel’s Point Of View
Safety being your first concern is a wonderful thing. No fantasy should end in a real trip to the hospital. There are a great many safe ways you can make your fantasies a reality. Ace bandages, hospital restraints, home health equipment like stability equipment for you bathroom, and first aid supplies are readily available to you. Make sure any bondage or other things involved in your play are done safely. Grabbing a book on bondage or two and maintaining open communication will help you through most of it. The most common bondage mistakes are rope burn and loss of circulation. A little common sense can keep those things from happening. Never leave your partner tied up alone.
For more intense medical play, a sex toy store that caters to fetish play should have some basic things. Electrosex toys bring TENS unit technology into the bedroom, allowing for safe and simple electric shock play. Sounds are available for more intense players. Speculums and other insertable medical devices are also very popular. Look around for gender specific toys as well for ideas. Toys for women and toys for men can be very different.
October 30th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »
Question of the Day:
As a guy, I know how I like a woman to be groomed, but a friend told me that women prefer a man who is also trimmed up really well or shaved. I’m not sure of the benifits or dangers of doing this to that area of my body. I’m not even sure on how to shave it without getting razor burn/bumps. What should I do?
Angel’s Point Of View:
I do prefer a man who is well groomed, myself. I understand weighing the benifits and risks though. Let me lay it out for you.
The benefits are easy. Size matters. If you’re pretty thick in the hair department, you will look an inch or two bigger when you cut it back. It also shows a woman that you care about your body and health. You will probably get felatio more. Hair holds scents that women are not always fond of, and no woman likes to come up with hair in her teeth. It also makes it easier for you to use toys for men like strokers and the like. Shaved men do not get hairs caught in their toys, lol. Shaving or trimming also makes toys for couples like cock rings more effective and more comfortable for you.
The risks are easy to avoid. Trim first. Get a beard trimmer and give that area a crew cut. Start with a large guard on the shaver to cut first, then work down the guard size til you can go without a guard and shave down to the skin. Next, take a good sharp razor, lather up with thick shaving cream and shave the excess.
October 29th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »
Question of the Day:
My wife and I would like to try a little role reversal in the bedroom. She wants to play the aggressor and “take me”. We are both a little nervous about the situation, but it sounds like a lot of fun and a really hot fantasy. What kind of stuff do we need to make this happen right?
Angel’s Point Of View:
You have the bulk of what you need, and that is the right idea for a fantasy. You are excited and realistic about what you want to do, so I have no doubt you two will have a ball.
As for gear, what you need depends on the type of fantasy you want. Go through some toys for couples to give you an idea of what is out there. Pick out the things you like together.
If she is the aggressor, she’s going to want to use your pleasure to get you to submit, so check out toys for men to find the strokers and pokers you’ll need for this.
October 29th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »
Question of the Day:
I want to try some roleplaying with my lover, but I’m not sure how to get started. It seems so silly to play pretend, but I know that a lot of people have fun with these kind of games. How do you get into the role without laughing at yourself or making it weird?
Angel’s Point of View:
You never know what games you might enjoy when you get started, but keeping an open mind is always the best advice.
Change the area around you. It’s hard to get into a fantasy when reality is staring you in the face. Play the discreet lovers role by renting a room at a seedy motel and booking under “John Smith”. Decorate your bedroom with curtains, throws, and lots of pillows for an Arabian Nights theme.
Costumes are also a great tool. If you dress like a masked bandit, it is easier to play one than if you were wearing a polo shirt and khakis. Get my drift.
The right tools also help. A paddle if you are playing the disciplinarian, medical gear if you are playing a doctor, or a giant lollipop for a schoolgirl. Sex toys can be worked into the scene creatively. I you have trouble coming up with ideas, try picking up a few adult movies and watching them together.
October 29th, 2009 | Uncategorized | No Comments »